My biggest question is, Why? Why create a life and then leave it to fend for itself? I realize that in this day and age planned parenting is a thing of the past. Our welfare system is overloaded with parents who can't or won't take care of their children. Between the growing number of illegal aliens that are allowed to get aid and the parents that can't or won't work the government is going to be forced to reconsider the entire welfare process. Does this need to happen, yes. In the meantime, what happens is people that hit that fine line of income, who are struggling to really make something of themselves are being cut from the Tenncare docket and child care docket because there isn't enough money and the governments idea of a remedy is to lower the income markers so that those who are trying are cut off and those who are chilling at home watching cable, living with their boy/girlfriends and not reporting their income and have no responsibility are able to continue to walk around paid for by the state.
Yes I am angry. Im angry for several personal reasons. I am one of those fine line people. I make $25K a year and I have 3 children. I was cut off from all benefits last year. I didn't really care about me, but my children were cut off of their insurance. I couldn't afford to feed the family, pay the bills, gas up the car and afford the insurance the office provides. It was $225 per check, thats $450 monthly so I was able to apply for Coverkids but the children had to be uninsured for 3 months for them to qualify and that was a long 3 months. Now I simply can't get sick and if I do, guess what, nobody cares, I just get to live with it because I haven't had insurance for over a year.
My eldest is leaving the nest but it is only in the last 2 months that I actually received a decent amount of child support for him and it will end in Sept. Just an irony to me that a lifetime of crap payment comes thru and then in the last few months I am able to get the system to work for me, but only long enough to get used to it so it will hurt badly when it cuts off.
My middle, his father has never supported him. In 14 years, he has paid me $8000. That is $572 a year and this money wasn't easily gotten, it was forced upon him thru jailtime and great gaps of not paying a dime. A long time ago, I would have just preferred the help of another parent and wouldn't even have wanted his money. I could have gone to school or bettered myself to support them with more income. Because my son now no longer wants anything to do with his father, all I want is money. He did this to himself. A child can only take the fairytale for so long. They are only going to be blinded by lies until they no longer want to hear them. With Tony, I did it the right way. I vented about his father on paper or to a friend when I was over, but I didn't kill his hopes that his father would come back and be good to him. Orlando did that to himself. This man halfass pays me the lowest child support allowed by law and that isn't consistent. Thats $200 monthly. Please tell me what that pays for? I tell you what is doesn't pay for and thats just about everything. He was due to pay me a payment this week and like a fool I expected it. Tony is going to the beach on Friday and now I have to come up with some off the wall way to buy him a couple of outfits because I don't have the money and he hasn't paid me. Disgusting is what it is.
