It is Amazing

I am always amazed that $25 & $35 payments will prevent any dead beat parent from going to jail.  Now when I say this, I mean like only paying this amount every 6 months.  So I can be owed $1000's but only has to pay a fraction in order to avoid punishment.

It would just be nice to even know what if feels like to have a real father for my kids.  Someone who wanted to spend time with them or support them in any way.  Someone who put himself last instead of before his kids.  Alas, that would be me.

There will be a day when these men are old and all they have are the reflections of their past and when they are calling people to come and help them off the porch in into the hopsital or wheelchair or for anything they can no longer do for themselves, I hope they remember all the times they didn't do one thing to help their children. 

Christmas Grinches

Yep it's Christmas time again and as alway child support stopped.  Gotta love it.  At least its consistent and I can count on the fact that every year around this time payment will stop and no gifts will be bought on behalf of any of my children's fathers. 

Tony is doing great, he has joined the fraternity Sigma Pi Epsilon and he is keeping a 3.5 grade average.  He is doing all of this by himself wish some help from me but for the most part all on his own.  I am proud of him.

No Shame In His Game........

So O and Tony have had contact recently.  Unfortunately it was due to a tragedy. O's brother passed away and Tony went to the funeral. A great thing came out of it, Tony got to meet a ton of his family and establish relationships that he had never done before so I was glad that he went and sad that it took this death to make it happen.

I have found that for the first time O is truly married.  His wife and I have had some emailing and she seems to agree that O is a deadbeat, well simply because you can't deny the obvious.  Has this made an ounce of difference.  Nope, O hasn't gotten a job, he is being taken care of like a child.  I have seen on FB where they have vacation plans and go to UT ball games.  Man it must be nice to have someone who takes 100% care of you and doesn't make you earn it.  I really don't want to hear about your vacationing and your ball gaming when all my money goes to Prom, Graduation and preparing for college.  It really just disgusts me to no end.  You should have to suffer behind being a responsible parent like we do but instead we get to see your $100 plus orange and white overalls and want to throw up.  Yep I worked those games for years, I know they cost a chunk, matter of fact all of your clothes are nicer than your childrens.  You and your "no shame" factor is just amazing. Although unlike you, I don't want your wife to feel pressure to take care of your children.  It isn't her responsibility, it's yours but while she is taking care of the rest of your needs, how bout you take your sorry ass out there and get a job and support the children you created.

It had to be strange to be in a group of folks and none of your children want to be in a photograph with you.  It had to be a bit LOUD, to see that they really didn't want to have conversation with you either.  Tony may talk a bit now, but he know's deep down that the only person you care for is yourself.  As do all the people who know you. 

You should give Gus a call and thank him, he has been more supportive of your son in the last few months than you have been in a decade.  Sad part about that is, you are 100% ok with that, I can almost hear your mind saying, "Glad someone is doing it".

Yep, I am mad again, I am mad because these are the moments that count, the ones that will never be forgotten and you are in a position where you are being taken care of so you should feel compelled to get out there and help these kids yet you don't.  You avoid child support like a person on the run, oh yeah because you do have open warrants out on you.  You just won't get right and try and establish some fundamentals with these kids because it will cost you some money.  Your right, I said it, it is going to cost you some money.  You have been shamefully and painfully unavailable to these kids and it is costing you financially, emotionally and one of these days physically.  Only so much guilt one can endure before it effects their health. 

Ten More Dollars

Wow, is this really the best you could do? I called the Child Support Office to make sure these micro payments you are making are not keeping you from being warranted. They are not. The lack of being able to catch you is however, I wonder how I can fix that? If this is going to be the consistency, you think your child is worth $10 a month/$120 a year. Lord you should be ashamed of your sad self.

Ringing In 2012

Orlando has recently married or at least applied for a marriage certificate. Yes we have seen the FB status. Congratulations. I hope you don't think that this will any way discourage me from pursuing child support because that will not happen. Tony will get what is owed him by you if he has to be 35 years old before it happens. At the $25 and $10 rates your paying to stay out of jail, I am guessing that he will be 35 before this happens but I am giving it to him for lunch so thanks for that. He has been accepted to TTU so when the expenses come around, I am sure I will be loathing you because you will always be more concerned with your status than any of your childrens. I hope your wife will not encourage this behavior. Maybe you will get a job, smoke/drink less and start supporting these kids you been having for the last 2 decades instead of letting someone support you so that you can make excuses for your deadbeat payments.

2012 is a new year and the first payment in 2012 I hope is not a representation of the "Get Outta Jail Free" payments you will continue to make in sporatic months when the office puts warrants out for your arrest. Just pay the lousy $200 a month and we wouldn't even have this conversation. Your past 40, grow up, this is sad.

Neglect On Blast

Despise You

Orlando Hall, I despise you most when I spend my entire check in one day and don't have any extra left over to give Tony for anything. He suffer's behind your neglegence and that's what leads me to disgust. Are you so worthless and selfish that you just continue to sit in that same bane existence and let all your children's mothers pay for everything. Then when they graduate or do somthing crowd worthy you will show up for a picture or in the background as if you played one single role. You haven't helped Tony out thru even one of his 12 years of school, so please don't show up at graduation. I may not be able to control my actions. If you do, you should hide in a corner because I won't hesitate to address with all of Oak Ridge, TN that you are a dead beat dad who doesn' t deserve one moment of false attention for any proud parental moment because you aren't a proud parent, you are a dead beat parent who hides behind a lifetime of attending college to avoid paying your dues, who still lives with his mamma and still at 40+ has no car, who can afford a 40oz of cheap malt liquor, a pack of cigarettes & some weed, but can't send even a $20 bill into the state to avoid going to jail or on the bright side to help out. You should be ashamed, I know I am. I am ashamed to say I ever thought enough of you to consider you a parent, the only good thing you ever did for me was Tony Hall. Hope you shrivel up every time you lie to your friends and family about how Tony's doing because you would be makin stuff up, they know what they see on Facebook and he won't even accept your friend request. That should tell you everything you need to know about what Tony thinks about you.