It is Amazing

I am always amazed that $25 & $35 payments will prevent any dead beat parent from going to jail.  Now when I say this, I mean like only paying this amount every 6 months.  So I can be owed $1000's but only has to pay a fraction in order to avoid punishment.

It would just be nice to even know what if feels like to have a real father for my kids.  Someone who wanted to spend time with them or support them in any way.  Someone who put himself last instead of before his kids.  Alas, that would be me.

There will be a day when these men are old and all they have are the reflections of their past and when they are calling people to come and help them off the porch in into the hopsital or wheelchair or for anything they can no longer do for themselves, I hope they remember all the times they didn't do one thing to help their children. 

Christmas Grinches

Yep it's Christmas time again and as alway child support stopped.  Gotta love it.  At least its consistent and I can count on the fact that every year around this time payment will stop and no gifts will be bought on behalf of any of my children's fathers. 

Tony is doing great, he has joined the fraternity Sigma Pi Epsilon and he is keeping a 3.5 grade average.  He is doing all of this by himself wish some help from me but for the most part all on his own.  I am proud of him.

No Shame In His Game........

So O and Tony have had contact recently.  Unfortunately it was due to a tragedy. O's brother passed away and Tony went to the funeral. A great thing came out of it, Tony got to meet a ton of his family and establish relationships that he had never done before so I was glad that he went and sad that it took this death to make it happen.

I have found that for the first time O is truly married.  His wife and I have had some emailing and she seems to agree that O is a deadbeat, well simply because you can't deny the obvious.  Has this made an ounce of difference.  Nope, O hasn't gotten a job, he is being taken care of like a child.  I have seen on FB where they have vacation plans and go to UT ball games.  Man it must be nice to have someone who takes 100% care of you and doesn't make you earn it.  I really don't want to hear about your vacationing and your ball gaming when all my money goes to Prom, Graduation and preparing for college.  It really just disgusts me to no end.  You should have to suffer behind being a responsible parent like we do but instead we get to see your $100 plus orange and white overalls and want to throw up.  Yep I worked those games for years, I know they cost a chunk, matter of fact all of your clothes are nicer than your childrens.  You and your "no shame" factor is just amazing. Although unlike you, I don't want your wife to feel pressure to take care of your children.  It isn't her responsibility, it's yours but while she is taking care of the rest of your needs, how bout you take your sorry ass out there and get a job and support the children you created.

It had to be strange to be in a group of folks and none of your children want to be in a photograph with you.  It had to be a bit LOUD, to see that they really didn't want to have conversation with you either.  Tony may talk a bit now, but he know's deep down that the only person you care for is yourself.  As do all the people who know you. 

You should give Gus a call and thank him, he has been more supportive of your son in the last few months than you have been in a decade.  Sad part about that is, you are 100% ok with that, I can almost hear your mind saying, "Glad someone is doing it".

Yep, I am mad again, I am mad because these are the moments that count, the ones that will never be forgotten and you are in a position where you are being taken care of so you should feel compelled to get out there and help these kids yet you don't.  You avoid child support like a person on the run, oh yeah because you do have open warrants out on you.  You just won't get right and try and establish some fundamentals with these kids because it will cost you some money.  Your right, I said it, it is going to cost you some money.  You have been shamefully and painfully unavailable to these kids and it is costing you financially, emotionally and one of these days physically.  Only so much guilt one can endure before it effects their health. 

Ten More Dollars

Wow, is this really the best you could do? I called the Child Support Office to make sure these micro payments you are making are not keeping you from being warranted. They are not. The lack of being able to catch you is however, I wonder how I can fix that? If this is going to be the consistency, you think your child is worth $10 a month/$120 a year. Lord you should be ashamed of your sad self.

Ringing In 2012

Orlando has recently married or at least applied for a marriage certificate. Yes we have seen the FB status. Congratulations. I hope you don't think that this will any way discourage me from pursuing child support because that will not happen. Tony will get what is owed him by you if he has to be 35 years old before it happens. At the $25 and $10 rates your paying to stay out of jail, I am guessing that he will be 35 before this happens but I am giving it to him for lunch so thanks for that. He has been accepted to TTU so when the expenses come around, I am sure I will be loathing you because you will always be more concerned with your status than any of your childrens. I hope your wife will not encourage this behavior. Maybe you will get a job, smoke/drink less and start supporting these kids you been having for the last 2 decades instead of letting someone support you so that you can make excuses for your deadbeat payments.

2012 is a new year and the first payment in 2012 I hope is not a representation of the "Get Outta Jail Free" payments you will continue to make in sporatic months when the office puts warrants out for your arrest. Just pay the lousy $200 a month and we wouldn't even have this conversation. Your past 40, grow up, this is sad.

Neglect On Blast

Despise You

Orlando Hall, I despise you most when I spend my entire check in one day and don't have any extra left over to give Tony for anything. He suffer's behind your neglegence and that's what leads me to disgust. Are you so worthless and selfish that you just continue to sit in that same bane existence and let all your children's mothers pay for everything. Then when they graduate or do somthing crowd worthy you will show up for a picture or in the background as if you played one single role. You haven't helped Tony out thru even one of his 12 years of school, so please don't show up at graduation. I may not be able to control my actions. If you do, you should hide in a corner because I won't hesitate to address with all of Oak Ridge, TN that you are a dead beat dad who doesn' t deserve one moment of false attention for any proud parental moment because you aren't a proud parent, you are a dead beat parent who hides behind a lifetime of attending college to avoid paying your dues, who still lives with his mamma and still at 40+ has no car, who can afford a 40oz of cheap malt liquor, a pack of cigarettes & some weed, but can't send even a $20 bill into the state to avoid going to jail or on the bright side to help out. You should be ashamed, I know I am. I am ashamed to say I ever thought enough of you to consider you a parent, the only good thing you ever did for me was Tony Hall. Hope you shrivel up every time you lie to your friends and family about how Tony's doing because you would be makin stuff up, they know what they see on Facebook and he won't even accept your friend request. That should tell you everything you need to know about what Tony thinks about you.

Whoa's of the Senoir Year

Tell me why ORHS insists on putting the school pictures, football pictures & annual order's in the prior to school starting. It's crazy. Summer is the hardest time for me. I pay full time for child care, keep the fridge stocked for Tony being at home, dish out more money for things to do, have to get school clothes and supplies. Yep, like I said crazy.

I was hoping to take the kids to KY Spash but it looks like I will be stretching all my $'s to the max to be able to afford clothes and pictures.

Lord, I would really like to be able to afford to be able to go on at least one vacation before Tony graduates, I would like to be with the finances to be able to help him with his college needs, I would like to be able to afford to go on these prospect trips at the end of this year, I would really like to be able to afford to do more than just live off the seat of my pants trying to stay above water.

Orlando, I know you don't give a S@#T about anyone but yourself but it would be nice if you would postpone your lifelong dream of finishing college (that is taking longer than a doctorate) and help support your kids who really do stand a chance of being able to graduate and make something of themselves. I am not going to stop pushing the courts to handle getting money from you. Tony deserves it. He is on his way to college. I don't care if he is 40 years old you will pay him what you owe him, but you should just man up and do it on your own.

Yep, Orlando went to jail. So what did that do for us? Absolutely nothing. We got $0 money out of the deal. Sadness is as sadness does I guess. Well I can tell you want month's of back child support equal's to the eyes of the law, exactly 15 days in jail. I wish he would just get a job and pay. The back support isn't going anywhere Orlando, not even if you die. Just pay it already.

Timely Payments

As it turns out, I have been receving regular payments from O. They aren't much, but at this time in our lives a little goes a long way so I appreciate it. My newfound look on life has me hating less and looking for more good in folks that I once despised. Haven't spoken a word to him and have absolutely no desire to really. It's not my relationship to mend, if he ever wants to have a relationship with Tony he will have to really work hard and I don't know if he will ever be willing to do this.

Tony has gotten to play in the last two ORHS Varsity football games. FYI, he is #78, OLine & DLine. This weeks game is in pretty far off and I won't be attending. J doesn't act right at the games, 7 is just too young to have a lil one sit still for something she doesn't even understand.

Go Wildcats...

In Sickness & In Health

It seems Orlando may very well be sick. An un-named person has seen him of late and reported that during the time he spent at their house O managed to have several seizures. When asked what the results are of some testing, he didn't know because he hadn't gone back to find out. There is something wrong with that statement, he either a) knows and doesn't want to tell b) never went to be tested in the first place or c) is afraid to go back and find out. Regardless, he needs to be able to tell folks what is wrong not to mention know himself. I can safely report back that he is still an active alcoholic so the seizures aren't being caused by my previous thought which was he quit drinking. I saw all of T's sibs on Facebook, they all favor each other. The newest is a spitting image. I find that comical seeing as how it was a fluke that she wound up with O in the first place and has defied the statement of once you go black because she hasn't gone back since, LOL.

I have started going to church so I am trying to change some ways, one of which is to have so much hatred and disdain for Orlando. Its hard. I am trying to find forgiveness and just let it go, but my son is fixing to go to college and make something of himself and I don't want to hear one word out of O's mouth of a contribution to that. The best I can do right now is to say, I no longer with you dead. Its not where the Good Lord wants me to be, but for now, its a baby step. If you had been a decent parent, it would have never boiled down to the money. I could have cared less, I survived all these years without it right. It seems like you have gotten scared now that you aren't well and you should be but its hard to trust anything you are about because if you were well, you would have just kept on going.

Dear Jesus,

Please help me with my anger towards my son's biological father. Please help me forgive him for all the things he has missed and never done for my son and my son's siblings.

Amen

$30 Get Outta Jail Free Card

As I have stated many times, if you want to know how to avoid paying any support for your child and not go to jail, just ask Orlando Hall, he knows all the tricks. I received this odd payment of $30 so I called the CS Office to see whether I lucked up and he got a job. Surely I jest right, right. Turns out Orlando went to court on 9/17/2010 my eldest sons birthday just to be extended to courtesy of coming back on 10/15/2010 and be given time to make payment in between. Somehow $30 just bought him a "Get Outta Jail Free" card.

WTF

So Orlando goes to court both here and in Kingsport and claims that "seizures" crap and apparently has some type of insurance (with no job mind you) that provides him with a Dr's excuse. Attention all deadbeats, please take note to my blog if you ever want to know what to do to excuse yourself from providing lunch money or anything for your child.

Someone contacted O's mother and got a report that he has stopped drinking and this is what has caused these seizures. Too bad I wasn't in court to reveal this information to the Judge, I am not really sure it would have mattered but it would have made me feel better.

I do hope that O stops being a useless alcoholic, but to use it as an excuse not to support his many sperm donations is pretty sad to me. Get your azz off the couch and stop watching TV or telling stories of grandure to young minds and get a J O B.

Luckiest Deadbeat In The World

Orlando Hall should just sit at night and thank his lucky stars. He just knew his dumbass was going to jail so what does he do, he shows up for court still drunk from the night before. Hello jerk, if you can afford to drink and smoke, I think you can afford some lunch money for your son. But to no avail, this moron manages to muster up for the judge "Judge, here's the sitcheeashunn", my sister is sitting there thinking how did her sister ever have the nerve to sleep with such a moron much less manage to pull off having this kid who will defy all those moronic genes and be somebody. Thank you Jesus for that by the way. End result, they offered the stooge an attorney and he of course took one because that leaves him more time to get drunk and not pay me child support, oh yeah and owe somebody else money. I get this call from my sister later on telling me the details, apparently the judge asks O if he has been drinking because somebody has probably smelled it on him. He says he tied one on late into the night because he thought he was going to jail. Yep, he really said that out loud. The judge asked told him she could accomodate him with his request to get to jail and he bowed out of that one quickly taking his attorney and leaving the courtroom for a new date of whoknowswhen.

May 27th Contempt

Hopefully the court will see fit to know that you don't have the landslide of excuses you had last time of "I'm looking for work" or my personal favorite "The SS office has me listed as a dead person". Maybe, just maybe they will see you in the top bunk of this County Jail and you will have to fork over some of that money, however you may get it, in order to get out. But if you can't you can look forward to Good Ol Bubba checking you out. Maybe it will be incentive, to you know get a life and get a job. I look forward to seeing you on the fron page of "Busted".

Who will you run too? Who will save you now? How will you squirm your way out of this one? Tune in folks, next week for the answer to these and several other questions.

Contempt Court Date

Orlando has an Contempt Court Date on May 27th. I am gambling to say that they sent this information to his former address, but she would gladly relay the information of that I am sure. But he himself can use it as an excuse not to show, I didn't receive notification, my woman broke it off with me. Because that is what kind of fellow he is.

My baby asked me for lunch money today jerk and had you put $20 into child support, I might not have had to dig up change because I am broke until Friday. You suck. You Sucka. You Suckem.

Find A New Path

Good Day Orlando,

Do me a favor, please don't sugarcoat for one minute why the string of women that you inseminated over the years don't care for you at all. You know why, you know it has nothing to do with us not letting you have access to our kids(we all have tried to bring you to your children at various times)or because there is this love/hate thing going on. It has to do with the fact that you don't want anything to do with our kids(unless the mood suits you or you think you might be able to get back in). If any of us hold more than 10 good minutes of conversation with you, you try to see if you can rekindle old relationships. Thank God its been years and years and years since I fell for that noise but anyone one of us can attest that this is truth. You and Angie have now split for reasons I can only guess. You are living off of your Mom. You still have no car and as far as I know no job so you are looking for a women to shack up with so that you can use her up till she grows tired of your stories (most of them being fiction) and then you will be back at your Moms again until the next poor woman comes thru. I would love to see you get into AA, quit claiming gangs, clean up your act, get steady work and don't go the rest of your life faking it. Pretending to be a father to people who are willing to listen, people who don't know you & even people who do know you but will listen anyway. Do you think my son would be proud to call you a Crip, no I don't think that would go over well on his transcripts and applications for college. You are gonna be 40 this year and it is high time that you get with a program that works for you and this one doesn't work for you. I could understand if the Crips were helping you achieve a job, a car, a house but far all you have achieved is the status of a woman beater and maybe some men we don't know about but your record is for women/domestic assault, wonder how I know that one? I will tell you how I know that you are the only man in 37 years to hold the title of domestically assaulting me and that was prior to the whole Crip era. Back to the present, Before Tony graduates from High School 2012, it would nice to know that his father has been employed for at least a year at a job, has achieved getting a car and is paying half if not all of somebodies rent. 211, MaryJane & OE can't be your best friends anymore. The party is over, its been going on for all the years you can remember, wouldn't it be nice to have some recollection going on that was #1 positive, #2 not whitewashed with a sheen of whatever you chose to be on that day & #3 100% truth. I could 1/2 understand if you were still in your 20's and there was still a path for you to move on to but the path is quickly diminishing before your very eyes, you have already lost my son, I am pretty sure the twins don't want anything to do with you, I don't know how Jordan feels and hell I don't know the other 2 at all, but anything you have left to carry on your name is going to be too ashamed or too angry to do that if you keep up the path of which you are on. You have to wake up and smell the coffee Orlando. I would say do it for your kids but that's will never work, do it for yourself, so when you look in the mirror you see more than a washed up drunk that has to lie to feel like a person. You could fix yourself and then become and advocate for AA and I am being serious, you like to be in the limelight and that would be a family that would take you in and make you whole again. At least give it a try. I am not done saying hateful things about you by a long shot, but its not because I want to. I would not say one more hateful word about you, if would try to be a better man.

Soo..

I don't mention most names because I haven't asked permission and I don't thinks its fair so if you see yourself referred and you wonder, thats why. If you are Orlando Tony Tirrell Hall Sr., well then you are referred to all the time because this blog is soley about you and your financial, emotional and simple neglect.

Well I was on Facebook and I met the mother of which I spoke about earlier. She is connecting with O's family and of course he is worming his way in as well. Slime is as slime does. Orlando, all I ask is that you do not make wrong with this child as you have with all the others, be honest. If you can't do what you say, then don't say it. It is truly why you have lost the respect of all your children and all of their mothers hate you. Nothing spells H-A-T-R-E-D, like watching our children shed tears over you and your broken promises so if you learn one thing from all the messes we have cleaned up its, Don't Lie To The Children.

She has no choice but to give her son a choice to get to know you. All responsible parents let the kids make that decision themselves unless its unsafe. We have no choice because if we push our kids in a direction they will always run the opposite. Young children love their parents no matter how crappy they are. Its when they hit those teen years and they no longer want the attention of parents that they will grown angry and bitter. So my suggestion to all parents but especially those who don't reside with the kids, get your time in while they are young because if you don't it is you who loses in the end.

I am glad that your mother is wanting to see this child. I don't have any issues with her or any other family member of yours. We simply drifted our separate ways and that was that. No iniative was made on either part. My son will be 17 this year, he is soo close to college he can taste it. I am soo proud of him and like I have stated before, if anyone in your family wants to see Tony, he is always throwing shotput at the track meets and he will be starting in the football games on Fridays. Its a start. As for you, you just sit on the sidelines and watch, if Tony wants to deal with you he is more than welcome but he would not like any surprises in a public forum.

Never forget the last time you were at a game and you humiliated him in front of all of his peers, "Yall just think Im a check". Nope we haven't fogotten that you were only at the ballgame in the first place to see another woman's child play, happened upon your son, got embarrassed because he wanted nothing to do with you, humiliated you and him in public, check my ass beacuse you hadn't paid in years, would have gotten your ass kicked had I been there & then acted as if nothing had ever happened the next time you saw us. I would suggest that NEVER happen again because I swore to myself there would be no next time, it would be me and a posse trampeling your head.

Orlando Hall Sr. Saga 2010

I work 10 hour days and it was just easier for me to get on and speak my peice during those hours because the minute I get home, I am enveloped in dinner, kids, laundry and simply making the world go round and I don't have time to be angry and deal with the thoughts I have for my the dead beat. The site was blocked and I was unable to get on here and vent but I happened to try it today and what do you know it worked so I have a lot to say in liue of a stretch of silence.

What did Tony get for Christmas this year, the wonderful gift of nothing. What did he get for his birthday, same gift, nuttin. No calls, no drive bys this year just simple silence and that same self-serving attitude as every year. I suspect that you have been well taken care of during tax season, its probably Orlando's Christmas over there isn't it. Which would mean someone isn't filing married and claiming your sorry ass, more like head of household and claiming your sorry ass.

Will I ever see money I can count on? I seriously doubt it. Not only that but there is talk that man has another child out there somewhere. I just will never understand why it is that a man go about creating all of these childen and never even acknowledge them. They are running around in the same cities at school functions and wondering when they look in eyes that resemble their own thinking is he/she related to me? Sad stuff. It would be nice for all the children who think Orlando Hall is their childs sperm donor would come together so that at least our children could know who each other is and decide for themselves if they would like to maintain relationships.

Orlando filed taxed and I got a little back from that and then made an odd payment of $40 last week but before that I hadn't seen anything since his era of unemployement of $14.20 a week.

Oh yes that reminds me. I made a call to the Child Support office when I started getting that strange and small amount of money and when I asked her what the deal way Gaye Kelly had the nerve to tell me I should be grateful to be getting any money at all. I can't tell you how I wanted to come thru the phone and show her just how grateful I was. She has become so complacent and bitter over the years. It means you need to find new employment Gaye, your not meant for this line of work anymore.
Then as quickly as the money came in it stopped and I thought I guess I should have been more grateful, NOT. Put that basterd in jail and make him pay all of us hard working mothers.

Yep, I still hate him and hate on him every chance I get. I was told he got a job at one of our new Sports Bar & Grill out here named Lincoln's and didn't last a week. How sad is that? Not even a week of employment and canned/quit again. I am glad I make enough to support your child I would hate it if I really needed you financially because you certainly wouldn't be there.

I wonder if he is still with good Ol Angie. I saw him walking around the area not too very long ago and I had an Ally McBeal moment where I mentally chasing his sorry ass down with my car and then I went on about my day.

Anyway for you folks that happen upon this blog, If your Orlando's family, please don't defend him because you are related. Put yourself in my shoes. I hate him with reason. I have no qualms with Orlando's relatives, they simply lost touch and Tony grew up. Tony plays ORHS football, come out any Friday night and support him, I am sure he would be glad to see ya there. If you happen to be a Baby Mama of Orlando's and you still defend him, I have to ask "WTF are you thinking and then I will go absolutely deaf". However if you are looking to introduce our children to one another, you can find me on myspace and facebook. I fully believe all of them should be aware of each other.

Ok, I am done venting today.

Dead Beat Holidayz

Orlando Hall quit his job or was fired. Why in the hell is it that a man loses his job during the holidays. Its not like he would be buying my son Christmas gifts or anything. Oh I know, somebody was more important, probably his non-biological son or his need to drink himself into a frenzy. Oh maybe he just got popped for a drug test and failed miserably like he does at all things parental. Yep, I still loathe the ground he walks on. I am sure his wife/girlfriend will pick up the slack for them but the rest of his family which is PLENTY gets to suffer because of whatever had occurred in his world. As you can see I have been quiet for almost 6 months now. Why is that you say, well its because his menial $48 or under has been coming in like clockwork for that period of time. So yes if Orlando thinks he is equivalent to a check, he would be right. Since the buck stopped on the 5th of November, I will be frequently updating this blog until the idiot gets a job or dies, whichever happens first. Good Job Orlando, you are the most meaningless parent in my world. Please stop telling those lies to all your associates about what a great parent you are. Those are blatent lies.